How To Make It Being Single During The Holidays

By Tricia Maxx 23/12/2011 15:37:00

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How To Make It Being Single During The Holidays

Do I view Christmas as just another day? Absolutely not!

I enjoy the festivities, the music, and the overall vibe. Why is it so easy for me to embrace being single during the holidays? When it was important for me to be with someone during the holidays it was for very shallow reasons. I wanted to have a date for whatever holiday party I got invited to, or I wanted to be HIS date all because I liked getting dressed up and socializing. I also needed to feel the weird sense of validation one gets by being stressed out about what to buy HIM for Christmas; and I of course wanted to feel special by receiving a gift from HIM as well. Many people treat being single like a disease because for some it really is an improper disorder that causes us to incorrectly function. I just don’t function that way anymore.

Throughout the year I practice extreme humanitarianism, I kick it up a notch during the holidays. There are people in my city who are homeless, abused, and have been forgotten. I don’t care if their misfortune is because of their own mistakes, they’re still human and we all make mistakes at some point. I made a lot of mistakes in my life and I know that it only takes one person to show they care; this gives hope and encouragement.

Considering the present condition of the world, the human race would already be extinct if there weren’t people who care. Most “volunteer” gigs have fallen into the media frenzy, and people seem to have lost sight of the real purpose for what they’re doing.

So, for the last few years I’ve done my own meals on wheels. I once went out and bought a few chickens, potatoes, cans of green beans, pudding, and made homemade meals for as many people as I could. Then a couple of friends, and I went and handed out meals to homeless people throughout Santa Monica.

I publicize being an advocate for humanitarianism because I want other people to do it, and maybe change the world a little? I admit it, I have an agenda. We all say we want love; what better way to do it than by doing things to bring it back to you? I’m not saying this will work for everyone, I’m just saying it works for me, and it sure beats being treated like Bridget Jones at holiday gatherings, or sitting home feeling sorry for myself.

Seeing people at their worst but making them smile, even if it’s only for a moment by acknowledging them as a human being really puts my life in perspective and suddenly being single is overshadowed.